These days everyone wants a faster metabolism to be able to eat more, lose weight and have everyone admire that you have a fast metabolism. To speed up your metabolism you need to eat balanced meals throughout the day. Ironically, if you eat too little, you slow down your metabolism. Also, you have to drink more water about eight cups a day and exercise about five times a week for about an hour. However, what really slows and weighs you down in life is the resentment you carry. Resentment causes you to put on the pounds. Cortisol, the stress hormone, increases with negative emotions and deposits fat around the abdominal region. Wouldn’t it be great to metabolize your past – the anger, the regrets and the sadness? Instead of slowing down your physical and emotional metabolism, learn how to speed them both up and let go of the excess weight, physically and mentally!
In the past you might have been taught that holding on at all costs is the most courageous thing to do. However, I think it is the letting go. Letting go of anger and your version of the truth requires far more courage and discipline. When you let go of what has been weighing you down, you feel lighter and happier. When you release your tensions every day, they don’t build up and harden your spirit and your arteries. You establish an internal set point of peace
. No matter what comes your way, you return to your set point.
To experience serenity you do not need to live by the sea or in a country cottage, far away from stores, technology and your ambitions. On the contrary when you are serene, you are more productive, creative and flexible. You achieve because you know how to return to your internal reference point. Like ocean waves, you venture out into the world with all its unpredictable, ambiguous and destabilizing situations and then return to your internal, peaceful shore.
This is what the phrase follow your heart
means. Your heart, a strong muscle beats powerfully, symbolizing action. But your heart also rests between beats, symbolizing relaxation. Similarly, internal peace is not a constant state. Internal peace means meeting stress head on and then letting it go. Just like you can alter your metabolism’s set point, you can alter your serenity set point. Here are some suggestions.
- Inhale and then exhale. Inhaling is the work portion of your breath. Exhaling is the relaxation part of your breath. When you consciously focus on your breath, think about inhaling life and then releasing stress.
- Try a walking meditation. When you are upset or sad, take a walk. Think about your legs taking you to your next happiness.
- Allocate daily worry time to face what is bothering you. Write down your worries in the form of a list. Objectify them. Think of how you can deal with each one to make peace with yourself.
- Try to write simple sentences about the negative situation or conflict. No adjectives or adverbs allowed! This means expressing the clinical facts – not the stories you build around them. Read your sentences out loud and try to see them from a more neutral perspective. It would be nice if everyone you know acted according to your rules and beliefs, but they don’t.
- Make sure that you meet your daily requirements for personal time and nurturing. Otherwise you will slow down your emotional metabolism.
- Every Sunday night take an inventory of the past week: What worked for you and what didn’t. Then plan out the coming week’s emotional menu for achieving your peaceful set point.
Debbie Mandel, MA is the author of Changing Habits: The Caregivers' Total Workout
and Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul,
a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more visit: www.turnonyourinnerlight.com