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8 Effective Tips to Make Your Resolutions Stick

By Debbie Mandel

We have been through many ordeals this past year from the recession to relationship karma. Our decade has been marred by terrorism, greed and neglect along with the noble desire to improve, simplify and reconnect. Itís time to make better decisions in 2010. This sounds a bit idealistic and abstract like the New Yearís Resolutions most people donít keep. However, we can finally stop feeling lonely, distressed and angry. We donít have to keep repeating the same mistakes with different people and relive the same old story.

Any change which you wish to make in your life involves a shift in perception and most emphatically does not involve any sort of judgment Ė instead you focus on what is wrong, not who is wrong. You will know that you succeeded not because of the applause you get from employers, friends or family at the end of a task, but the personal pride you take in your work whether it is cleaning the house, writing a poem that will never be read or beautifully finishing the back of a furniture piece which is to be placed against the wall.

8 tips to transform your life:
  1. Stop thinking about living and start living. Most of the time we live in our past and future thoughts. Experience life now.
  2. Donít point a finger at all the people who irritate you or who hurt you. Begin with the premise that you canít change anyone, but yourself. When you are upset with someone or something, change yourself. What a relief that you donít have to teach everyone a lesson!
  3. Move ahead with goals which truly resonate for you and release the resolutions that you feel you should make. Accomplish for yourself.
  4. Feel your body because it is communicating with you. Donít override and deplete it.
  5. Identify your unique contribution and compose a sentence about it. This will enable you to have enough of an ego, so that you can lose some of it during a conflict to seek a fair compromise.
  6. Donít get in over your head when you make changes. Start with small ones and evaluate weekly to see what works and what doesnít.
  7. Donít give yourself a deadline. Be patient with your goals and ease on down the road.
  8. Manage the little stressors in your life because stress causes you to revert to old habits you are trying to transform into new strengths.

Debbie Mandel, MA is the author of Addicted to Stress: A Woman's 7 Step Program to Reclaim Joy and Spontaneity in Life, Changing Habits: The Caregivers' Total Workout and Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more visit: